Buddhist
Concerns Regarding Suicide
Rev. Jundo Gregory Gibbs
Suicide is considered a crime in most states. It is
considered an immoral act by many societies and in the
Christian religion. For Buddhists it is a neutral reality.
lt can be a very negative action, destructive of the Iife
of the agent and devastating to his or her surviving loved
ones. It is, nonetheless, sometimes a noble action. When a
captured soldier ends his life rather than risking giving
up his comrades' position under torture, this is certainly
a brave and respectable act.
Speaking for myself, I see the same nobility in the
deliberate ending of life by a terminally ill patient whose
treatment is exhausting family resources as he or she
endures great suffering.
Suicide is often morally irrelevant when viewed from a
Buddhist perspective, just a fact like death from disease
or accident. A terminalty ill patient who is not exhausting
family resources but wishes to end his or her suffering
would usually be seen as neither praised worthy nor
blameworthy, from a Buddhist perspective. It seems to me
rather silly that suicide is against the law in many
places. If one has decided to end his life, he will hardly
be deterred by the threat of legal censure after he is
gone. (Perhaps they find the estate in some localities?)
It seems a sad fact that some religions teach that
deliberately choosing to die is a sin for which one will be
punished in some future life. What kind of a God would dole
out further punishment to one who has already relinquished
the most precious possession that any of us has, life
itself?
Although ending one's own life is not necessarily immoral,
I would nonetheless advise against it in almost any
foreseeable case. Life is intrinsically valuable. Our own
lives are worthy to a degree beyond our abilities to fully
understand. The best thing is a long life filled with
warmth, sharing, adventure, and amusement. But even a life
filled with physical and/or emotional suffering is
valuable, worthy of continuation by those strong enough to
persevere Certainly, I admire those who end their own lives
because they do not want to be a burden upon others. But
such a self-sacrificing act does not exceed the nobility of
continuing life to its Iast moment in the recognition that
all life is precious.
Recently, actor Robert Urich insisted that life support
mechanisms not be discontinued in his final days. It was
not that he feared death. It was because he loved life so
much that he intended to live every possible moment left to
him.
I have always liked Dogen Zenji’s highly symbolic way of
praising the value of any life: "Even a demon pacing back
and forth in a cave buried in the depths of the earth is
one bright pearl."
Some who are contemplating suicide may not be able to sense
the beauty that pertains to any life. We need to find other
ways to encourage them to continue living. Cautionary
remarks about how suicide will affect the loved ones of the
victim might help some who are nor too far down the road to
self-slaughter. Indeed there does seem to be a higher
percentage of suicides amongst those whose parents have
taken their own lives. Also, of course, the sadness that
family and friends must face could be a deterrent.
Reminding people that good things-beauty, friendship,
happiness- may be just a little further down the road may
help.
One problem is that we often don’t know that someone has
suicidal yearnings, even if we are close to them. Since we
don't know who to encourage, perhaps we must resolve to be
encouraging in our remarks to everyone.
Nietzsche once said, "The thought of suicide has gotten
many a man through a bad night."
To consider the possibility of suicide as a last-ditch
effort to escape unbearable suffering or pain may actually
be what is needed for some to continue living.
There was a period in Chinese Buddhist history
when some people jumped off cliffs while chanting the
Nembutsu. They couldn't wait to go to Amida's Pure Land.
They expected not just happiness for themselves but the
wisdom and power to lead others to absolute freedom.
Remembering their motives, their suicides were noble, even
though, I believe, misguided. If I had been there as these
people contemplated their self-canceling trips to the Pure
Land, I would have advised them to wait. I would have tried
to help them see that there is a beauty to our lives even
now which is not to be ignored or devalued. Amida Buddha
will still be there to welcome us if we let our lives
follow their natural courses.
We may not always know how to encourage friends and family
members to persevere. Sometimes we may have no idea that
someone we care for is contemplating suicide. There may be
no warning signs. In such cases we must not judge harshly
but rather honor those who leave us early. They saw clearly
the suffering that shadows the lives of the unenlightened.
This is half of what the Buddha tried to teach us.
The other half of the message is that life is intrinsically
valuable. When we stop trying to have things our own way so
doggedly, we come to see that all of life is beautiful. If
we can only see worthiness in pleasant times we are in
great danger. That is why the Buddha directed his gaze back
to suffering. Those who see suffering so clearly are
"bright pearls." I hope we can find ways of encouraging
such people to stay here with us. If not, Amida Buddha will
welcome them to his joyous realm of influence. Amida,
Shakyamuni, all the Buddhas know the worth of such
deep-feeling people. The next time we do see a sign that
someone is depressed, let's honor that person. If we can't
cheer them up, can we still value that person? Each one of
us is one bright pearl. I only hope that those of such deep
feeling may come to feel this fact.
Twenty-five years ago, in the middle of an extended
blizzard, a depressed man jumped off a twenty-story
building in Chicago. He landed in a huge pile of snow.
Except for having the wind knocked out of him, he was
unhurt. I suspect that man felt that someone or something
was looking out for him. I only wish there was a happy
ending for more of those driven by sadness to the final
escape. Let's do what we can to prevent our associates from
despairing. Life is beautiful in a way that goes beyond our
usual concepts of beauty and ugliness. Not everyone knows
this. If we keep the Buddha-Dharma alive on this planet,
one day everyone will know the worthiness of all life.
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